Monday, November 14, 2011

Teaching Old-Fashioned Values in a Modern World

One of the things that I have really enjoyed since I've had a child is a certain reading material called "Parents" magazine. I think there are good articles in this magazine and is a great self help in different stages in your parenting. I just received my magazine this past week and was looking through as my son took a nap. I came up on a article that was so great. I started looking back at how my mother use to parent and teach me all along my childhood. This article was about Old Fashioned Values and it reminded me so much of how I grew up. At the time as a child, I thought it was harsh but now that I am a mother I see that these values are understandable now.
The article writes like this:
There's no doubt that children are becoming more disrespectful at a young age. And the reason is, well duh: With smart mouthed cartoon characters, obnoxious reality shows and constant cell phone interruptions, it's crystal clear that society has become ruder and it's rubbing off on families. Some moms and dads are settling for behavior that's barely acceptable rather than holding their kids to a higher standards they grew up with. For instance, their happy if their kid doesn't roll his eyes when he meets someone new rather than expecting him/her to greet the person nicely.
Given all the outside influences, it may seem practically impossible to instill good, old fashioned values in a young child. While the wagging finger or scare tactics your parents may have used probably won't work, these modern approaches from leading experts will. Try them and your kids will get noticed - for their good manners.

The Old Fashioned Rule:{ 1 } Don't interrupt adults in the middle of a conversation.
You're trying to talk to a friend and your kid screams over and over again: "Mommy Mommy Mommy MOMMY!" is there anything more exasperating? Young kids not only have little impulse control and patience, but they also translate your inattention as "Mommy being taken away from me; I need to get her back"TEACH IT TODAY:
We inadvertently feed the problem by telling our children to say 'excuse me' as if that's the magic word. "They say excuse me and we go ahead and answer them. Well, that's still interruption." A better way: Explain what's expected up front: "I'm talking to Mrs. Jones right now. I'm going to be talking for a few minutes, and I don't want to be interrupted." If your child is waiting quietly, stop to tell him/her how much you appreciate it and that you're almost done. If he/she's not, hold up a finger as a signal to wait. If he/she keeps on, no matter how hard it is to tolerate - don't give in or she'll learn that badgering eventually does work to get your attention. Most importantly, hold up your end of the bargain and in a few minutes tend to her needs: "Now it's your turn, thank you for waiting"{ 2 } Say "Thank you" without being prodded.
Your kids probably get a lot of gifts and treats. Why can't they learn to say thank you automatically? "When parents remind their kids in front of a person who gave the gift, the acknowledgement seems so insincere.TEACH IT TODAY:
Reword your reminders. Instead of asking your kid to say thank you say, "It's the right time to show how much you appreciate your gift." Then kids aren't repeating your words and get used to giving the acknowledgement on their own.
Also get your child in the habit of helping you write thank-you notes. Toddlers can draw a picture; preschoolers may be able to print their name or the first letter of it. How much they can do isn't important, the point is to re-enforce that it's polite to thank someone for a gift.

{ 3 } Greet Adults with "Hello" and a proper name.
When most kids do say something to welcome an adult, they look at the ground and mumble or ignore.TEACH IT TODAY:
Role-play it at home. Pretend you're Aunt Sally or your child's teacher and have him practice saying hello to you. Encourage him to smile or wave and clearly and pleasantly greet the person. If he's reluctant to look up, challenge him to find the color of her eyes. Once he feels comfortable with the process around the house, chances are he'll try it out in public. But it'll work better if you let it be his idea rather than yours.

{ 4 } Hold the door.
Many kids barge through a door, barely noticing the person who opened it or worse still, whether it's going to slam in someones face. They don't automatically think that they should get the door; you have to explain to them that it's the kind thing to do.
Practice at every opportunity. Once introduced to the concept, young kids love to hold doors because they feel like big strong helpers doing a very important job. Start at home: "Mommy's carrying a lot of groceries. Who can hold the door for me?" At the store or at school, where doors may be heavy for a young child to hold on their own, ask them to help you: "Here comes Mrs. Roberts and Brian. Let's hold the door for them because that's the polite thing to do." Begin very low-key and then one day - because you're not requiring it or demanding it - you'll be amazed to hear your child say, "Mommy, I can do it myself."

{ 5 } If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. (My personal favorite!)
Young kids learn from watching TV today that it's okay - even sometimes funny - when people say rude things to each other. Add that to the fact that a young child's sense of empathy isn't fully developed, and it's a recipe for a humiliating situation.TEACH IT TODAY:
First, resist watching inappropriate TV shows - or, at least, discuss the problem behavior with your child. For instance say, "Do you think that was mean of Simon to talk to the singer like that?" Then let your child know what she says has the power to hurt the feelings of another kid or adult. See whether she can recall an example of a time when her feelings were hurt so that you can be sure she grasps the concept. It's also worth making up scenarios and asking her whether the person in the story said a good or bad thing. The more concrete you can make it for her, the better she'd understand it.

{ 6 } Give up your seat.
It usually doesn't cross a young kids mind that giving up a seat to an older person on the train or at a party is the polite thing to do. The chances he'll actually do it are even slimmer.
Lead by example. The next time you're riding a crowded bus or train, ask your child to sit with you. Say: "Would you come sit here on my lap so this nice man can have a seat? I think he would really appreciate it." The more often children see you do it, the more liable they are to come up with the idea themselves.
Interesting Fact:Lose the Excuses!
"He didn't have his nap today"...."She's just hungry"....."He doesn't usually act like this"
It's incredibly tempting to make excuses for your child when he behaves rudely in public. "When you do this, children get the message that they don't have to answer for their behavior because their parents have done it for them. Instead, apologize for the inappropriate behavior. That sends the message "I did something wrong that Mommy and Daddy have to say they're sorry about it to others."

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Sunday, July 31, 2011


Wow I have been slack at keeping up with my blog and really miss our community.Summer seems so hectic and now working full time has put a damper on computer time but I vow to keep myself in blogger land!

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Fathers day celebration ideas

GOLF themed  “Par-tee” by Rebecca Martinez
– Photography: Rebecca Martinez Photography
– Edible Cookie Toppers: Tasty Foto Art
Custom Golf Balls & Tees:

One of my favorite treat ideas by Bakerella.
Canon’s Creative Park has adorable Father’s Day Cards.
Make Dad a Super Hero Box of goodies!  
Jordan Ferney of Oh Happy Day! created these cute labels for Alpha Mom.

A cute coloring activity by Family Fun for young kids! 
Cathe Holden has cute clip art.
Check out these printables by My Delightful Designs! 

I love these retro Father’s Day Labels by Martha Stewart. Download the PDF

 Wonderful images and ideas from Living Locurto

Saturday, June 4, 2011

More Trends in Stationery…

) Metallics – Personally, I think gold and silver are always in style.  That being said, metallics were HUGE at the stationery show and how doesn’t like to surround themselves with more silver and gold?!  Look for tons of marvelous metallics in paper, especially for the holidays.

2) Ribbon & Glitter – Again, I never get tired of a little satin and sparkle.  But it seems no one else will either this year.  Lots of invitations and cards had special little unexpected extras on them at the show.  It was fun to see a mediocre card come to life with a little dash of glitter and a strip of satin ribbon.

3) Laser Cut Masterpieces – Perhaps, my favorite trend of the WHOLE show!  With intricate laser cut detailing and design, wedding invitations and stationery are being beautifully enhanced.  Look for gorgeous laser cut wedding invitation bands and for birthdays and bridal showers – gorgeous finely cut cupcake wrappers and place cards.

4) Saracastic Holiday Cards – With messages like “Merry Stressmas and Happy Hollardays,”  sarcasm seems to be a trend for this upcoming holiday season.   I’m not going to say it’s my favorite trend  (I LOVE the holidays and am more of a “Happy Holidays to all!” type), but there are a few new sarcastic greeting cards out there that truly made me giggle at the show.

5) Traditional Invitations -  My final trend to share is also a favorite!  It seems stationery is going back to more traditional feel.  For a little while there in paper, we were dabbling with the 80s-type craziness.  2011-2012 seems to be looking back to a more streamlined traditional beauty in cards and invites that we have seen in the past three years.

This information comes from my favorite designer of all time Loralee Lewis 

Her newest collection for someone famous....ooh I love a mystery!

 What inspiration for The small town party planner!!!

Friday, May 20, 2011

For all you Oprah fans!

A banner, signs, party squares, bingo cards & more!
Go here to download {links near the bottom of the post}.
Catherine at Design Editor sent me the link to her FREE viewing party downloads/printable s to share! These designs were inspired by Oprah's audience.
You can use these printable s to throw a great viewing party.
Say farewell to Oprah with class & charm!
Words and link found at Karas party ideas

Tuesday, May 17, 2011